Recently I was hanging out with a friend, and she was venting. I let her vent as the good friend that I am, but I realized that the things that she was venting out really happened about 15 years ago. She hasn’t been friends or communicated with these people in the last 2-3 years, but I find that if they messaged her today, she would hang out with them again.
Now she was good friends with them for a very long time and that does mean something but the things that she was venting about was very old news. Yes, people are slow to change but we are also not fortune tellers either. Who knows that is going to happen or what they are really like today? A lot of what she was saying was jut speculation.
It got me thinking about a few things in my life and that yes, I have some people in my life who have made some speculation about me that they are taking as fact jut like my friend had but that is all that it is, just speculation.
It is a very similar situation because these people are not in my life on a regular basis to honestly know the difference and they don’t know what goes on behind closed doors so how would they really know the difference of what would actually happen?
I find that I can make very similar judgments and speculations about them but that doesn’t mean that what we think about each other is right or will actually happen the way that we think that it is going to happen.
Life is constantly changing and evolving so why can’t we just think about our life and what we want to be doing? Why must we speculate and pry into others lives? Why must we always be right? Even if what actually happened, we were able to predict in some way doesn’t mean that we knew what was going to happen fully the way that it really did unfold.
Ultimately, I think we just need to let things go before we get let go meaning that people just don’t want to be around you because you just can’t let things go. What will be will be no matter what you think or your input. You don’t know everything so stop trying to.