It is way to easy to bring up old arguments and wounds from the past. Yes, we can learn from the past, but should we keep bringing it up to learn from it?
You can remember old times and reminisce about it but each time you go on an adventure it is always different and there is something new to experience. In a way it is like a never-ending story.
Wounds may heal but the scars are there for life. Do you want to risk making that scar an open wound again? Do you want to risk relationships over this?
How much is to much for bringing up the past? Is there a time when you need to acknowledge that this did happen and that there is nothing that you can do about the fact that it did happen, but you can work with people to make sure that this does not happen again in the future?
Reminding someone gently of what happened in the past so it doesn’t happen again may be the thing that needs to happen, but you do not want to be overbearing with it.
Instead of focusing on the past you want to focus on the present and want to make sure that you are not getting confused with the past. The last thing you want is to think a certain way and then to have someone continue to behave a certain way just because you have a certain thought process of them of who they were and not who they are now. People do change which is wonderful, but change can be made slowly and may be hard to see in a person, but you don’t want to not see it when it does open so stay open to the idea of it.
You can make the changes to make sure that change is happening, stay away from the past, there may be some things that you want to learn and bring forward in your life regarding change, but you always want to keep yourself open to the possibility that there were other factors at that time that were in play that do not apply to the present moment.
Be here now and enjoy the moment and reflect on that and bring it forward!